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dandy7221-Apr-22 9:42
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honey the codewitch19-Apr-22 2:57
mvahoney the codewitch19-Apr-22 2:57 
(I'm going to get to a point using the following as a concrete example, but it's not the central subject)

I moderate comments for a small website that recently experienced growing pains due to an influx of people from a major American political website that shut down their comments section.

The owner and I don't always see eye to eye on what constitutes "toxicity" and it's difficult because I try to respect his website and do things his way, but today I applied a ban on someone I thought wasn't even an edge case, and the owner balked. Isn't the first time it's happened. The commenters appreciate it in every case, but the owner is more lenient than the commentariat is in some ways in terms of what he thinks is toxic. And it's doubly hard because being kind of a close knit warm community before, there was infighting sometimes, but people had boundaries, and those aren't there anymore, so I don't have a metric.

I do it to try to serve the community, but lately I think I want to step down. I don't like banning people, and I don't like upsetting the site owner. I'd rather just observe. Maybe I'll just donate more money instead. Sigh | :sigh:

Now, to my point:

I always feel like having authority just paints a target on my back. That's why I didn't like my career trajectory when I was doing the more traditional software development. I don't like being in charge of others. I struggle with hierarchies in general, preferring directed graphs. Poke tongue | ;-P I even eyed dev lead positions with suspicion. When I discovered being an architect meant also managing people in practice I was done. I was done with the field. I got out for years. I even worked at a gas station, just to be free of the BS. (Actually, that was first job I've ever gotten a paid vacation they *allowed me to take*). That is how averse I am to the whole thing. Now I am the lone person. I have no team, and I prefer it that way, because with my experience, I always end up leading any given team, and you can keep it.

I am probably not alone in terms of hating hierarchies of people. I get the feeling a lot of developers don't like people politics, and everything that goes with it.

My hubby really likes the idea of being in charge of others - he jokes about if he ran the world. I'm over here like "who needs the responsibility?"
To err is human. Fortune favors the monsters.

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