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Randor wrote: I think you are referring to Lopitar and his reaction to the distasteful joke? My understanding is that he had a close family member die and a while later a regular member here in the forum made a joke about that same deadly scenario and several members were laughing about it.
And I still stand my point. That's sad, it would be understandable that he get mad, but still a bit overreacted in my opinion.
I have had some covid infected in my family, one school mate died from it, my mother passed away some months ago... I have had a couple of situations in the same wave, people joking and laughing on a topic that made me sad / mad / pissed me off... but hey, it is a free internet.
As I said, speech freedom can be a b1tch, but bad taste is not a crime.
If I had started to argue with the people things would have get emotional and ended probably in one or maybe several bans. So... like smoking, the best thing is... not starting.
Some hours later the thread was gone from the first page, problem solved.
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Nelek wrote: I have had some covid infected in my family, one school mate died from it, my mother passed away some months ago...
I am sorry to hear that. I hope that you are doing well.
Nelek wrote: Some hours later the thread was gone from the first page, problem solved.
There is an emotional impact to making fun of someone who has just lost a relative. I would expect more from the software engineering community. I certainly hope that artificial intelligence and/or learning algorithms aren't being modeled from psychopaths. That could build a terrible future.
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Randor wrote: I am sorry to hear that. I hope that you are doing well.
Thanks, I would like to think yes. Life continues and I have an own family to take care of. Feeling you are needed helps a lot.
Randor wrote: I would expect more from the software engineering community.
I can't say in the case of lopatir, but software engineers are not psychics. So they can't know about it when the thread starts.
And we all react different depending on the day, but if you go blaming because of the jokes, the answer is going to be a defensive / aggressive one. If you just say "Hey, look, I would ask you to stop because..." calm and friendly, then people will probably stop. But one thing is an universal true and that is "There are idiots and morons everywhere" so yes, the risk is still there that if you say something no matter how, an idiot then starts trolling you.
But I am then confident that the community would react and stop it.
Anyways, the most effective way is not to get personally involved, stop reading in the moment you recognise the direction is taking and totally ignore it.
And... being a bit nitpicky... are you sure it was Lopitar? I would say the nick was Lopatir  
EDIT: And please, don't understand me wrong. I agree with you in most of what you say. I just see a bigger part of self-responsibility in how someone reacts
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There was a time here in the UK when those were the staple of all comedians. I recall Bernard Manning particularly (probably a name not known outside the UK), who would make fun of people in the audience, particularly anyone of Asian origin.
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Yeah,
Some years ago I would regularly attend a comedy club in Bellevue, WA to watch the stand-up. Racial jokes are apparently still a big thing in the comedy scene.
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My American wife laughs often and usually has a great sense of humour - she married me! However, sometimes I will say something which would have my fellow Brits rolling on the floor laughing (in reality, just smiling a bit and perhaps nodding) and she will look at me like I had just regurgitated an owl (still alive). She is from "The South" and their culture is somewhat weird in a way I cannot find the words to describe!
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I learned some time ago that a lot of things just don't translate. In school, especially grad school, most of my friends were Chinese (mainly Taiwan, and one from Hong Kong). Those who've live in the US many years understood certain expression: calling someone and a**hole or jackass made sense to them but as an insult, it turns out its something of a western idiom. We called our professor/group leader an Old Phart. It made no sense to them. As it turns out, in the Chinese language you cannot just put an adjective in front of an noun and expect it to make sense. If I recall correctly, the language construct is such that those types of things can have surprisingly different meanings than their components, and thus, the assume that they just don't understand the meaning.Chris Maunder wrote: I'd get away with talking about sex, religion and politics better than I would cracking a joke in some cases.
cheers
Well - just tell them your religion is to have sex with politicians.
Problem solved.
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W∴ Balboos, GHB wrote: your religion is to have sex with politicians.
Why would anyone want to produce more politicians?
Freedom is the freedom to say that two plus two make four. If that is granted, all else follows.
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When I studied at the Uni I lived i a student home that housed a load of Erasmus students. I learned to appreciate the differences between our cultures a lot during that time.
I also learned that subtleties can have very different meanings for different people, so I also learned to be very straight forward and even blunt.
During those times we did a lot of cooking for each other, and one of the things we noted and discussed a lot was how different the time keeping is in different countries.
If I told people the dinner starts at eight, Swedes would be there a few minute before, because it's rude being late.
Germans would come spot on the time, for them it's bad style to not be on time. Could often see Germans outside the door waiting for the correct time. 
Dutch and English people were usually up to fifteen minutes late. They thought it was bad to come to early, one must always allow the host enough time to be ready.
For the French and Italians that would be at least half an hour. (In both cases depending a lot on geographical north or south)
And the Spaniards, well they would usually arrive in time for the dessert.
Wrong is evil and must be defeated. - Jeff Ello
Never stop dreaming - Freddie Kruger
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The Spaniards probably thought that dinner at 8pm, instead of at least 10pm, was rude. 
EDIT: I would say that most Canadians are in the 15 minutes late group, for the same reason.
When I lived in California, a friend sometimes hosted parties. He might have 12 acceptances, of which 4 to 6 would show up. The others, nothing. No email, no phone call. Lots of rude folks out there.
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Spot on!
Wrong is evil and must be defeated. - Jeff Ello
Never stop dreaming - Freddie Kruger
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I could never stand it when people required that I respond to an invitation.
Never. That's just plain rude of them.
Write the bloody thing and give a means to accept.
If you no hear from me, I no accept. Simple.
What? I have to go out of my way because I've received an unwanted invitation?
(quoting from Sexy Beast)
No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. NO
If this is a problem for them, I suppose soon enough they'll leave me alone.
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I think he's referring to the people that accepted and still didn't come.
Wrong is evil and must be defeated. - Jeff Ello
Never stop dreaming - Freddie Kruger
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:goes-back-to-look:
face-palm.
I wouldn't have injected it here if I was better at reading yesterday. The sentiment remains.
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Jörgen Andersson wrote:
And the Spaniards, well they would usually arrive in time for the dessert.
Nope... we would appear just on time to start cooking the dinner (again) to be able to eat just in time at 22:00 or 22:30 (more or less) 
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Chris Maunder wrote: I'd get away with talking about sex, religion and politics
Not in the Lounge you wouldn't. Please familiarize yourself with the Lounge rules.
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Yeah the drop bear thing does not work any more - there are so few yanks over here it has no audience.
I used to jokingly call myself a terrorist (instead of tourist) when travelling and poking my nose in everywhere, I stopped after 911, it was no longer amusing.
The flavour of humour and sarcasm I like never did go over well in Singapore.
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My problem is that my sense of humor is mostly word play and its lowest form the pun. I even have to be careful with coworkers from the U.K.
It's amazing how you can read a blank look between the lines of an email.
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And here I am, unable to understand jokes from another place in my own country.
Am from Southern part of India, and I speak a language called Kannada. When someone from another region of India tells a joke, can only partially appreciate the humour part, while everything in my language is highly intelligible. (Let me tell you that India has more than 20 official languages, and is highly multi-cultural).
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I worked a few weeks in Bangalore some years ago, and found the locals could appreciate a joke. Only once did I say something which I though was a compliment, that was misinterpreted as an insult. Fortunately one of the other guys helped to smooth it over.
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the only place I ever had a problem with humour (and therefore decided to be very careful) was the USA - and I've worked in a few places - heck, if I can make Germans, French, Poms laugh .. and you're right, self-deprecating 'humour' or 'sarcasm' was the issue with (some) ..
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If you are using Chrome, then try this: Maps with what3words - Chrome Web Store[^]
It allows you to type WhatThreeWords addresses into Google Maps and it will take you there.
There is a version for Firefox, I believe.
If you don't know what WhatThreeWords addresses are, watch this: What3Words in YOUR Mercedes Benz - YouTube[^] - it explains it well (he does good videoseven if they are all a particular card maker oriented).
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Is a multiple personality disorder just social networking in your head?
"I have no idea what I did, but I'm taking full credit for it." - ThisOldTony
"Common sense is so rare these days, it should be classified as a super power" - Random T-shirt
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Yes we agree! No we do not!!
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