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Likely they didn't leave the house barely dressed.
The girls I knew had their "going out" clothes stashed at a friend's house, they left home, changed, went out, changed back, came home. Parents were none the wiser, or at least that is what the girls thought.
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RJOberg wrote: The girls I knew had their "going out" clothes stashed at a friend's house, they left home, changed, went out, changed back, came home.
They had to be leaving someone's house barely dressed. Did these parents take responsibility? 
Then again they could have changed in a car and not be seen by adults. 
The report of my death was an exaggeration - Mark Twain
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Slow reply, was out of town for the weekend.
Responsibility... responsibility? What's that? Nah, the big problem was that there was always that one kid who had parents who didn't seem to care, or let their child make their own choices, or who knows why. And everyone knew which one it was.
You know, that parent who lets their 10-12 year old kid have their friends over and watch R rated movies, telling the kids that it is okay? And then act confused when the other parents call up and are angry about finding out that little Timmy just watched a movie meant for grown ups?
Yeah, those parents.
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RJOberg wrote: Nah, the big problem was that there was always that one kid who had parents who didn't seem to care
The report of my death was an exaggeration - Mark Twain
Simply Elegant Designs JimmyRopes Designs
I'm on-line therefore I am.
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Your posted paints a very different picture if not read carefully.
chriselst wrote: Is this really where she will be in 4 years time?
Yes. I am not a parent so there is no way I can understand this. Some may say, I should not even comment on this. Going to nightclubs and having a good fun night is fine. But they must be made aware of what's right and what's wrong in general according to culture at your place. They must also know that Miley Cyrus and likes are not cool. Substance abuse is never good (this is the target audience in drug business, isn't it?). They must also be made aware of security measures and major laws at the place.
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Maybe not. It's not necessarily inevitable. Not all girls are like that.
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Whatever you do, don't turn around twice. I did and my 8 years old daughter is now 22 and getting married in 16 days.
On the plus side she is gainfully employed and he is 2 semesters away from graduating with an engineering degree.
So dance with the 8 year old as often as she wants.
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> I'm terrified.
Good, then you're in the right mindset.
Been there. Done that. Mine's 22 now. It eventually gets better, but for now, grit your teeth.
It is terrifying and there's nothing you can do about it.
People say shotguns help, but they don't.
There's nothing you can do about a teenage girl's life other than
sit there, observe the horror, and wait for the "high drama" moments to subside.
Don't even talk to her when the drama is high. Just make a few notes about what would
be a prudent way to avoid that drama in the future. And run. Run fast!
Talk to her during the lulls. Let her talk first and she will talk a LOT.
You may learn a teeny little thing here or there, but really this is just a way for
her to finally get to the point where she can listen to you.
Then those few notes you made - drop them into the conversations as questions so
they seem like her idea.
Do that over and over again, and eventually your teenage daughter will
become a mature woman and life will =finally= improve for you.
But, in the mean time, grit your teeth. It's not going to be a very fun ride.
Glasses will be thrown. She will have yelling matches with her Mom. Nothing will
be fair. You just don't understand her. Oh my god. Seriously. Dad.
Good luck to ya, my friend.
Eventually, if you're lucky, you get a daughter who knows you "get" her and possibly even a grandkid out of the deal.
As soon as she comes back down, life is wonderful.
(I'm not sayin' all girls are like that, but MINE was.)
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My own daughter turns 12 next week. I empathize with your concerns, and in being terrified 
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I think that the quality of Code Project is going down. There are a number of issues that need to be addressed but there is no way that I can click on a link and provide the CP staff with a problem (bug) report. CP also needs a bug report tracker that lets me know what's happening. Let's make CP more professional!
Chris may believe that ads are important. And to some extent I agree. But the large number of ads is disconcerting. Also when ads hide navigation I am even more concerned.
Gus Gustafson
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Let's use the Site Bugs & Suggestions link in the list on the left first. Then we can work on the other stuff. 
Will Rogers never met me.
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gggustafson wrote: Chris may believe that ads are important. And to some extent I agree. But the large number of ads is disconcerting. Also when ads hide navigation I am even more concerned.
So, you would be willing to pay a monthly installment to be here?
I could never complain about the existence of advertisements on a totally free site.
I would report if an advertisements is preventing navigating the site. I don't recall ever seeing that happen. I'm running Firefox 28.0. I wonder what browser you are running.
If you see the "Help" menu item above, then click on that and go to "Bugs and suggestions." If that menu is covered by an advertisement, go to http://www.codeproject.com/suggestions.aspx[^]
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It is not a totally free site to me. I hope that I have earned my "free subscription" by my articles and advice.
I am not complaining about ads. I am complaining about their number and their misplacement. What's worse is their inappropriateness. I am an experienced developer. I do not need products that help me develop trivial solutions. I believe that a large number of CP members are the same as me. If CP needs a subscription to eliminate ads from pages that I visit, I might even consider paying for it.
Gus Gustafson
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Bill_Hallahan wrote: So, you would be willing to pay a monthly installment to be here?
CP wouldn't exist without its users. CP's users provide content and answer questions. Remove the users and what do you have left?
/ravi
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Ravi Bhavnani wrote: Bill_Hallahan wrote: So, you would be willing to pay a monthly installment to be here?
CP wouldn't exist without its users. CP's users provide content and answer questions. Remove the users and what do you have left?
/ravi
ravi, the point was made in response to the OP writing:
Chris may believe that ads are important. And to some extent I agree. But the large number of ads is disconcerting.
I expect he did't considered the continuing costs of paying for high bandwidth from an ISP and server costs.
I consider conditions here to be more than equitable. The advertisements never bothered me. And, I hope the people who made this site make a good profit too from advertisers. I can see this took a lot of work.
The article quality varies. Open sites on the Internet are analogous to mining for gold. There's gold, but you have to sift through a lot of dirt to find it. Restricting access to the cognoscenti is neither possible, nor desirable. Good ideas come from all kinds of people with varied levels of expertise.
Sites that do restrict access often have an higher average quality of material, such as sites that publish academic papers, such as the ACM or the IEEE sites, but that comes at the cost of having fewer members and fewer ideas, and also requires a financial price. There are a huge number of practical ideas here that never reach those types of sites.
modified 17-Apr-14 21:15pm.
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The ads don't bother me, either. Sadly, I don't find them useful (appropriate) and have rarely clicked on one. 
/ravi
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Hey Gus,
If you see something that's broken please do let us know about it. Each of us, Chris, Sean, Matthew, Kamil and I, and the whole team, really want to know as soon as possible.
I remember a few years ago talking to Chris about 3rd party monitoring services to watch the site and he smiled and said that he would be surprised if an alert came in before he got an email from a member. (fyi we actually have 3 external services and at least 2 internal ones). So please, best is bugs & suggestions which you can see we're very active in:
http://www.codeproject.com/suggestions.aspx[^]
or if you think the site is *really* broken, an email to webmaster@codeproject.com will do the trick.
I do have to say that I'm exceedingly unhappy you feel the quality of the site is going down. We have been working like bandits on new and better features, adding full Git support to articles and allowing them to become full projects along with an amazing developer focused collaborative task management system, and most recently a documentation wiki system for projects.
https://workspaces.codeproject.com[^]
As for advertising, well that's a tricky balance. I can tell you that minimalist is our general approach, but to be useful the ads have to be effective too, and we try incredibly hard to make them relevant and on-topic as well.
Anyway, please do let us know when something is broken, and please understand there are no nefarious intentions. We want to offer an excellent and valuable site to you. Let us know how we can do that better.
David
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David Cunningham wrote: I do have to say that I'm exceedingly unhappy you feel the quality of the site is going down. We have been working like bandits on new and better features, adding full Git support to articles and allowing them to become full projects along with an amazing developer focused collaborative task management system, and most recently a documentation wiki system for projects.
i think hes referring to the quality of the articles appearing rather that CP itself. And if thats the case i'd agree and i reckon that part of the issue is that CP is casting it's net too wide (my opinion)
Bryce
MCAD
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bryce wrote: i reckon that part of the issue is that CP is casting it's net too wide
In what way? Do you mean: accepting a lesser quality than we should, or accepting articles on article we shouldn't?
I built CodeProject to help me and my fellow addicts programmers share and learn, and as I grow and avoid maturing my journey's taken me way, way off the path I initially set out upon. We've gone from MFC and C++ to ASP, C#, VB, Java and will continue on with node, Ruby, Objective-C, Go, F# and whatever else a dev needs to know to get their job done.
At a quick count I'm dealing with 10 languages or sub-languages across 4 major operating systems day in, day out, and I'm not as knee deep in this as I used to be. That's actually scary (the number of languages, not that I'm not as knee-deep. I know you count that as a blessing)
cheers
Chris Maunder
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Chris, don't be so touchy. You did the programming community a significant service. We have all benefitted from your hard work.
I suggested that a current CP project was going to produce less-than-desired results. You didn't listen and unfortunately my prediction has been borne out by the quality of the submissions.
My view is that CP is a great site. It does what its founder wanted it to do. But CP is taking off in a strange direction. Maybe you can rein it in.
Anyway, thanks for the site.
Gus Gustafson
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Not being touchy Gus, I'm trying to understand what Ads are blocking your navigation. [Edit: and I'm getting crossed wires here! You responded to my response from Brycey, and I'd like to hear his thoughts since I think his concerns are different from yours]
With regards to the "Current CP Project" do you mean the HTML contest or The Guild?
cheers
Chris Maunder
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I had a similar experience whenI went to Waterfox 28.0, where ads begun showing up everywhere, and I mean even in my own web site. Apparently a new extension was added (do not recall full name but it had to do with ads). Removed it and issue went away. Next day, issue is back and so is the extension. Finally was able to return to sanity by turning "Update Add-ons automatically" off and removing the extension.
And I mean everywhere, I (and my users) got popups in input fields!
I wonder if this is what is happening to CP dotheads??
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gggustafson wrote: Chris, don't be so touchy
Neither Chris, nor his response to you, is touchy. That was an insulting statement.
modified 18-Apr-14 15:05pm.
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I'm inclined to disagree about CP casting its net too wide. There are so many technologies out there just in the Microsoft world, that it's next to impossible to even be aware of them all, let alone be knowledgeable about them. I have come to CP both for 101 level information on technologies and for help when I'm having difficulty with some obscure feature of a technology. I'd hate to live with just MSDN as a source of information.
Yes, some articles aren't very well written, but perhaps it's the author's first attempt at writing an article for an audience larger than their coworkers. When I read an article, I also read the comments and I pay attention to the ratings when I search for info on a topic. I have seen people post constructive criticism in the comments and I encourage others to do so.
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David, I do not suggest some nefarious purpose. Just mis-guided.
Let's look at the two pages to which you referred me. In both cases, I enter the pages with a fixed format using IE9 Win7.
Bugs and Suggestions
The first thing I notice is that two collections are displayed: Bugs and Suggestions and The current TODO list. I believe that these two collections should appear on two distinct pages. Note too that at the bottom of Bugs and Suggestions there is the familiar CP page navigation controls for the other pages in Bugs and Suggestions. But following that is a line of inappropriate classification choices, a line of flags, and a line of instructions. What are they for?
I notice is that I cannot collapse items that have sub items under them. It appears that someone "sliced and diced" the format of the Lounge. This causes a problem displaying the whole page. Especially The current TODO list.
When I go down to The current TODO list, at the bottom I see "Displaying 26 tasks out of 39". There is no familiar CP page navigation control to let me view the other 13 tasks. Adding "You can use keyboard shortcuts to navigate" is hardly useful.
I suggest a redesign of the Bugs and Suggestions page that removes these concerns.
Workspaces
On the Workspaces page I find "Connect to GitMachine using your favourite [sic] Git client (XCode, Visual Studio 2013, EGit for Eclipse) and upload your code or clone from a remote repository." I don't use VS 2013. Are you limiting Workspaces to CP members who use VS 2013? I use VS 2008 because it does exactly what I need without bloat.
But I guess that my real question is "Why Workspaces at all?" What unfulfilled need of the CP membership is satisfied by this dubious feature? All I want to do is to click on the Download buttons found in an article.
Gus Gustafson
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