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No. It was not a reply to you. It was a reply to Gopika Ravikumar's original post. Not to you. The line of it went to you, and when I saw that I tried to change it but my internet connection locked up.
Richard Deeming said, "Says the person whose only other message on this site is a "do all my work for me" question in the database forum." That is not nice. That is arrogant.
Then when the poster, who seems to think that this is a "helpful" site tried to placate Deeming and received, "But if you turn up and dump a list of requirements and expect us to do all the work for you, you've come to the wrong site." More arrogance from Deeming. I do not care how many points he has. That means nothing as he has proven multiple times in degrading other people that are simply asking for help. Maybe I should have contacted the advertisers on this site and pointed out to them how offensive some memebers like Deeming are. Maybe the advertisers will consider that the negativity transfered to readers is also by association transferred to their product. I have been thinking about that.
I like your posts, generally. You seem to get flustered by new people's questions occationally, but you do not agressively degrade them. I might some day like to meet you and simply listen to what you have to say in general. Have lunch. Sit and listen. That sounds nice.
But, bullies like Deeming, I have a tendency to get in a bully's face, nose to nose. I would cross a room full of people to stand in the face of a bully. I have always been that way.
You can delete my account if you like. It is OK. I have learned what I mostly came here to learn, which was how to break apart files into bits and analyze them for security purposes. I noticed 7 negative 16's on my reputation history today. I guess that means that I have found a bully and am standing in his face, right where I enjoy being.
You guys depend upon advertising revenue. Think about that. If I am to advertise on your site, then it had better be a lot less negative. I come from heavy industry, where there is a lot more money simply in the cash flow than your tiny advertisers that you have now can pay. CFOs that have MBAs are [supposedly] trained like I was in head to head competitive strategies. Advertising on a negative site can preclude a viewer's tendencies toward disliking or at least feeling uncomfortable with any and all that they encounter (like advertising) while perceiving negativity.
Bullies or me. If we are together I will be in their face. Deeming is a bully, like some others that I have encountered here.
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Member 15078716 wrote: It was not a reply to you. It was a reply to Gopika Ravikumar's original post Er, then why did you click "Reply" in my message.
Member 15078716 wrote: Richard Deeming said, ... That is arrogant. Richard Deeming is one of the most helpful people on this site. All the points he has earned are because of the quality of his answers. But when we get people here expecting us to do their work, it needs to be pointed out.
Member 15078716 wrote: You guys depend upon advertising revenue. No, we are just volunteers so the advertising revenue does not affect what we do.
Member 15078716 wrote: Deeming is a bully, like some others that I have encountered here. No he is not, and nor is anyone else. But sometimes (sadly more frequently these days) people come here and expect someone else to do their work while they sit around playing games.
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Rude of you to assume that someone else is "playing games". Whoa
In case you don't understand, I don't want anyone else to do my work and I have stated this previously.If you do not wanna help, then don't.
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Gopika Ravikumar wrote: Rude of you to assume that someone else is "playing games". I was referring to the people who come here expecting others to do their work for them. Examples can be found in the Quick Answers forum every day.
Gopika Ravikumar wrote: In case you don't understand, I don't want anyone else to do my work The question at Database design for a project - Database Discussion Boards[^] certainly give the impression that you do. And your original post in this thread complains that your team mates are all lazy, but does not explain what you have done or where you are stuck.
Gopika Ravikumar wrote: If you do not wanna help, then don't. I have never made such a statement. But how can anyone help when you have not bothered to ask an actual question.
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Richard MacCutchan wrote: The question at Database design for a project - Database Discussion Boards[^] certainly give the impression that you do. And your original post in this thread complains that your team mates are all lazy, but does not explain what you have done or where you are stuck.
I just gave a basic description of what my work was. It was my fault for phrasing my question like that. It wasn't really my intention to make somebody else do my work or anything.. and this is my first time here so I was just checking if there was someone willing to help. What I got was rude comments, and I stopped coming to this site altogether. So yeah I understand I must be more specific so that some people don't get the wrong impression.
Anyway, the whole thing is over and the problem was solved. So there is no point in further discussion. Have a great day.
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Yeah!! you are absolutely right!! After I saw that persons rude comment, I stopped coming to this site altogether.
I was seriously discouraged and felt bad. Anyway its all in the past..
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Hey! Thank you so much for offering to help. You are an amazing person.. I have successfully completed my project despite the difficulties. Have a nice day!!
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Yayy..I completed this project by myself and everything kind of went well...
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Congrats Its a bad luck you got lazy or careless Team. Also it may be learning curve for you.
Don't get upset by the old members here. Its that they think we don't give effort and simply post all our codes when stuck. There have been a few people that do it its all about newbie mistakes. As they come across more and more people do it they may get over their cool selves.
I also had experienced this type of things when I started my career and wanted to get things fast.
I don't even know how to do a certain thing and post it in hope someone will help but here I had few bad experience.
LK
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I should have mentioned this before but I did not think sufficiently of it.
It looks like you are willing to accept a load of responsibility that is upon you. Good. Be the "i" in every team that you are on. The weak minded cannot see that i in team because they are not it. It looks like you already know that you are it. OK, so, force yourself to succeed while (inadvertantly) dragging the complainers, whiners, and lazy forward to success. Let them fail on their own time. This is your time to succeed.
Yes, I complain and while myself. Thank you for giving the chance to see that. I shall work on removing that from my own preferrendums.
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I think that the commentators were unnecessarily rude. For a college student, it seems like quite a dilemma when you don't want to have bad grades but your teammates aren't as motivated as you. My take on this is that you're studying for yourself, not for a grade. In my 8+ year career, nobody cared about my college grades at all.
Anyways, congrats on completing the project
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First boss lasted one whole week.
Second and Third bosses (dual reporting) were awesome for the next 9 months. First time a dual reporting relationship that actually worked and worked very well. Two great individuals who communicated both with each other and with me.
4th boss is a jerk. Oh well. So 4th boss wanted another layer of management between himself and his minions. Brings on an new manager between us. Without any interview process without any warning. New mid-level boss started today.
Like/Love the job and the co-workers and greatly believe in the product. BUTTTTTTTTT........
Feeling a little jerked around right now.
Advice thoughts?
To err is human to really elephant it up you need a computer
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What happened to bosses 1 through 3? If you're at a larger company, you might look for an internal transfer if boss 2 or 3 is still around and boss 5 doesn't work out. It sounds like boss 4 is going to become boss 5's problem, not yours. And that boss 4 or his boss is incompetent, because boss 4 was put in a position where he was supposed to manage your group but couldn't.
modified 1-Mar-22 20:34pm.
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Any changes since the initial post? IS there a chance for compromise or even for you to grow in the company?
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don't really want to grow(other than my own brain). I am at a smaller organization so growth would take me out of IT and that is not something I would even consider were it even possible. don't get me wrong I like new challenges. But I am made for Programming and solving tech issues. I am not made for other jobs.
5th boss is actually turning out to be ok. But worried that his bosses don't see him in that light. Trying to help with that(keep your bosses boss off your bosses back). The Company is facing some definite issues with the economy and other things related to that. So just trying to keep my head down.
To err is human to really elephant it up you need a computer
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so word today. 6th leadership change. oh my goodness. tempted to stay just to see where this is going to go.
To err is human to really elephant it up you need a computer
modified 15-Jul-22 15:08pm.
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this is just crazy. absolutely crazy. But heck they are still paying me right?
To err is human to really elephant it up you need a computer
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I have worked at Amazon for two years. My boss Tom has been bullying me since the outbreak of the epidemic. Do Americans have the ability to think seriously about things? Do you really believe in some crooks? Even if I am Asian, I am still a loyal subordinate, which is really bad!
modified 6-Sep-22 12:04pm.
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doesn't matter who you are! Period! if you do your job you should be rewarded at the very least with the assurance that you are doing your job. Your boss is an idiot. Sorry about that. But in this climate with the amount of decent jobs out there. I would be looking for a new job. You deserve to be treated with respect. No matter what.
PS I wish I was hiring. Loyalty should always be rewarded.
To err is human to really elephant it up you need a computer
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Harassment based on race is specifically illegal in the US.
"Asian" is specifically identified as a race.
Standards for Maintaining, Collecting, and Presenting Federal Data on Race and Ethnicity | U.S. Department of the Interior[^]
magdalenatristan wrote: My boss Tom has been bullying me since the outbreak of the epidemic.
Write down each incident in detail in documentation that you keep outside of work. Time, date, content of what was said. Any other relevant details.
You could record every conversation on your phone but you must FIRST check the laws in the state where you live since some states require that both parties be aware of the recording. The laws are criminal so you must check that first.
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jschell wrote: Harassment based on race is specifically illegal in the US. Unless you are a Democrat.
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