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honey the codewitch17-Dec-22 0:50
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GeneralOh jeez, haven't been in this position in a long time Pin
honey the codewitch16-Dec-22 16:56
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I just got a bunch of work offloaded onto me as the electrical engineer and quasi software developer decided to take on a project manager and liaison role, which in a lot of ways works for me, except that I inherit his work.

Now, the deadline for this stuff is beyond anyone's control. If it doesn't get made, the principal on the project ends up halfway 'round the world with nothing to work with at a critical phase of development. There's nothing we can do to delay the trip, because a bunch of people over there are also counting on things to work.

I have been in these situations before, as I'm sure many of you have. 10 years ago, this was my life, and I lived and breathed this stuff.

But my mental health isn't what it was, and I'm semi-retired because of it. I am not the primary breadwinner in my household because sometimes I can't work and I have to take a month off, and as it as I can't work full time.

Historically, I've worked with clients and on projects where deadlines weren't pressing, and the people I work with are generally pretty relaxed. I've been blessed, and also strategic.

I took this job because it pays well and is interesting work, but I hope I am up for it after all.

Part of the issue is, the PM i mentioned above needs my reassurance emotionally so that he can do his job well. Therefore I'm like I got this. And technically, and timewise I know that all the pieces are there for me to be successful. It just comes down to me being able to put in this amount of work. It's not a motivation issue.

I get overwhelmed really easily these days, and then I can't focus and I get anxiety and panic attacks and generally go off the rails. I have to be careful about stress too, because too much of it, and I'm seeing things that aren't there, and unpleasantness like that.

This is kind of uncharted territory for me. I've had a hard time knowing my limitations because they've changed in recent years pretty dramatically. Lately I've been cautious, maybe to a fault, about taking things on.

So maybe I need this, but it also kind of freaks me out. Unsure | :~
To err is human. Fortune favors the monsters.

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