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fyi: I was,formerly, a long time ago, a board-certified psychotherapist.

From what I read in what you say, you are:

Undergoing a traumatic disruption of a primary relationship, and separation from your child. This involves the courts. I believe you are grieving.

You are a long way from home (your country of birth ?; your original culture?). While you don't specifically say you are socially isolated, or without face-to-face contact with people you can "trust to be yourself" with, I can't help but infer you may be isolated.

In short, imho, you are in a crisis, and I believe your stress levels are very high. Typical side-effects of stress, suffering, grief, often affect your ability to concentrate, your motivation to make any life-style changes. While I can't speak about you possible level of depression without much more information, I am sure you struggle with some form of depression.

Isolation, unfortunately, is usually an insidious "amplifier" of negative thoughts, obsessional thinking or behaving, and morbid guilt.

If it feels okay to you, I suggest you enter into some form of therapy: having someone to talk to who is "outside" your personal context can be very helpful.

Second, I suggest that to the extent possible you focus on personal health, exercise, diet. To quote Dr. Andrew Weill:
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We’ve long known that regular aerobic exercise is the best method for immediate, symptomatic treatment of depression. Numerous well-designed studies have demonstrated the efficacy of a daily workout for improving emotional health and boosting self-confidence. I recommend 30 minute of continuous activity, at least five days a week for best results. Although the new findings suggest that you don’t have to exercise that often to help prevent depression, getting 30 minutes a day will help protect your physical health as well as your mental health.
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Your comments that indicate you believe procrastination and fear of being mentally overwhelmed ... unable to focus ... are parts of your character, I see as side-effects of repetitive patterns of negative self-talk. Modern therapies like CBT [^] show reliable results in re-framing cognitive style ... more quickly than other older analytic forms of therapy.

Everything I say here is "reading tea leaves," based on scant information. I hope you find something useful in it !

take care, Bill
«One day it will have to be officially admitted that what we have christened reality is an even greater illusion than the world of dreams.» Salvador Dali

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