|
Sander Rossel wrote: First of all, it's MY money and you have no say in how I spend it.
...aaand that's why she was your girlfriend and not your wife.
Count your blessings. I do.
|
|
|
|
|
I really wouldn't want a wife who tells me what I can and cannot do (within reason).
In this particular case there are a lot more reasons than that, though 
|
|
|
|
|
I definitely know plenty of couples for whom spending a few hundred dollars on Lego would not fly with one of the two.
|
|
|
|
|
Well, it depends on the arrangements you've made.
Let's say you need at least €2000 a month to get by and your shared income is just about that.
Buying some expensive stuff without discussing it first is sure to start a fight.
Let's say you need the same amount, but you both earn €3000.
Each put €1500 on a shared bank account for the monthly costs and some savings for vacations, a new dishwasher, etc. and keeps €1500 for themselves.
How that €1500 is spent should be of no concern to the other, unless illegal or affecting the other negatively.
Let's say you both have plenty of money, but only one room in the house and you plan to stall the Lego there, get ready for a fight (and selling your Lego).
In our specific case, we both lived with our parents and I made a lot of money while she still went to school and made no money at all.
I just bought my own three-bedroom house where I would go live alone and maybe she would join me, but we were only dating for a few months (I already bought the house before we started dating).
We had no financial obligations to each other, and I only had the house, which still left me with plenty of savings.
And then she told me how I could and could not spend my money 
|
|
|
|
|
Sander Rossel wrote: And then she told me how I could and could not spend my money
As far as I'm concerned, marriage only makes that worse. To quote one of my wiser uncles (in his 80s): What's hers, is hers, and what's yours, is hers.
I very clearly remember one of my aunts thinking I was being cute when, at the age of 7, I said I'd never get married. I'm turning 48 next month, and I'm still sticking with that story, now with more conviction than ever.
|
|
|
|
|
Amen brother.
I don't want to get married either.
It's a very expensive day and if you don't believe I love you without spending €30,000 then maybe we're not meant to be
I could get married for free at city hall, but only with a prenuptial agreement(?).
What's mine is mine and I'd like to keep it that way because I've worked hard for it.
No kids either, I'm not ready for that kind of commitment and sacrifice without getting some obvious reward in return.
"But it's the best thing that ever happened to me" is NOT an obvious reward.
In fact, study has shown that people without kids are slightly happier on average.
And if you're unlucky your kid(s) will bring you mostly worries and sadness.
A girlfriend would sometimes be nice, but that's hard if you don't want to get married and also don't want kids and are also very introverted
|
|
|
|
|
I'm an introvert and I can enjoy being by myself for very long periods of time.
This lockdown thing has done very little to change how I'm living my life. I've been working at home for over a decade, so I've been doing this already for a long time.
|
|
|
|
|
Yeah, me too 
I've worked from home for a couple of months in 2019.
After about three months I got a little lonely though, so I found myself an office with other people.
It's good because I get to meet new like-minded people (and networking is important as a business owner) and I lack the discipline to work from home for longer periods of time.
Having an office, even a shared one, is also more professional towards customers.
The only thing COVID-19 did was make me work from home again
It delayed some projects too, but luckily I've still got plenty of work.
|
|
|
|
|
Nice, and pricey!
I'm not sure how many it cookies it makes to be happy, but so far it's not 27.
JaxCoder.com
|
|
|
|
|
That sort of money would make a good downpayment on the real thing...
|
|
|
|
|
|
I may have to use some money from my savings account for that...
|
|
|
|
|
Keep the box.
It was only in wine that he laid down no limit for himself, but he did not allow himself to be confused by it.
― Confucian Analects: Rules of Confucius about his food
|
|
|
|
|
I always keep non-generic boxes
|
|
|
|
|
A True Nerd would have designed it from scratch, and 3d printed the legos! (It probably would have been cheaper in the end, depending on the cost of printer!) But I won't harp on it too much! Enjoy your build!
|
|
|
|
|
David O'Neil wrote: It probably would have been cheaper in the end
Time == money too, so it definitely would not have been cheaper
|
|
|
|
|
That wouldn't be a consideration to a True Nerd! Have fun with it!
|
|
|
|
|
|
Hey man, good to see you here 
Wow, I never even heard of that!
It's a really dubious name for a toy, though 
It reminded me of something I had when I was a kid, Meccano[^]
It seems Erector was bought by Meccano in 2000.
|
|
|
|
|
Sander Rossel wrote: It's a really dubious name for a toy, though
That is only in the modern times, when we are striving like crazy to find something to comdemn, or to be "stimulated" by absolutely everywhere!
Take a look in the photo albums of your grandparents (in the US of A: your great grandparents). Look at the photos from the beach, from the nursery etc. - lots of them would be "child pornography" today. Noone thought of it that way, in those days, "They are innocent children!".
"Ercect" is a perfectly "normal" word! Should we restrict the use of it? What about "slit", is that similarly "sensitive"? What about "balls", "rod", "hard", "wet", and "turned on"? How should we refer to an activated heater, if we cannot say that it is "turned on" because the term might cause some readers to become "turned on"? 
I think this word game has gone way too far. I demand my rigth to erect a pole. I will paint that board black, not "afro-american". And I want to describe my coworkers from the south of India, who have never been to neither Africa nor America, as black rather than "afro-american". I could of course say "the fellow with the complexion of an afro-american", but I choose not to.
In the same style: I see no problem with explaining to kids of any age the meaning of "erect" in any sense of the word, even though I know very well that you are supposed to keep secret certain interpretations until the child has turned 18 and is no longer a child.
|
|
|
|
|
I'm surprised your post even came through the spam detection with so many "trigger words"
On another topic, I think I know who you are ("that guy" who writes longer-than-average replies), but I can't be bothered to check.
You should REALLY get a username that people can remember if you plan on posting so much and sticking around
|
|
|
|
|
What do you prefer?
+ CPP
++ logic
++ gui
++ test
+ Cs
++ logic
++ gui
++ test
+ ...
or
+ logic
++ Cpp
++ Cs
++ ..
+ gui
++ Cpp
++ Cs
++ ...
+ test
++ Cpp
++ Cs
++ ...
and why?
Background:
I am soon doing a major re-factor / start over and take what still is usefull of a product where several things are working together and I would like to re-structure it a bit. I already see advantages and disadvantages on both approaches. Just want to "hear" about your tastes / opinions.
EDIT-ADDITION:
The current project has a section of "static" files for configuration staff.
A huge C++ part with over 20 tiny apps separated in threads, a cpp server to manage them, some cpp third party libs / add-ons...
The .Net Framework with some libraries, a couple of background services, some different WPFs, a bunch of tiny satellite apps...
In the next major version we want to move to the next Standard LTS (IIRC is .Net 6 somewhen in the end of 2021), so right now what is getting redone from the scratch and some background performance improvements that I want to test is getting targeted in .Net Core 3.1
@RickZeeland, @code-witch, @Member-7989122
you had already answered, and I thought this additional info could have changed something in your opinion, so I wanted to let you know.
M.D.V.
If something has a solution... Why do we have to worry about?. If it has no solution... For what reason do we have to worry about?
Help me to understand what I'm saying, and I'll explain it better to you
Rating helpful answers is nice, but saying thanks can be even nicer.
modified 27-May-20 9:28am.
|
|
|
|
|
I would prefer the second way, this will save you a lot of time in a complex solution e.g. when you want to search the files in a directory. Example: search for some error message from Notepad++ with "search in files".
|
|
|
|
|
I choose A.
(even if we are doing B)
I'd rather be phishing!
|
|
|
|
|
And ... what are your motives ?
|
|
|
|
General 
News 
Suggestion 
Question 
Bug 
Answer 
Joke 
Praise 
Rant 
Admin 
Submit an article or tip
