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Eytukan1-Apr-16 22:37
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Eytukan1-Apr-16 3:34
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Eytukan1-Apr-16 22:36
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BillWoodruff2-Apr-16 0:22
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Brother Vunic,

Seriously, the only thing I am concerned with here is helping you to see that you have been "hooked" into a psychodrama with a certain type of on-line persona, and the accumulated residue of that conflict ... which you are now ventilating ... is not making you happy.

People in groups develop, maintain, elaborate, and manifest in action "personas," roles. And, groups feed, and nurture, and reinforce these manifestations of persona for various reasons. The anonymity of on-line interaction imho amplifies this tendency. The founder of the school of psychotherapy in which I once trained, and was accredited in, Moreno, believed that groups have a tendency over time to distribute attention selectively; a few people, those who have taken, "owned," strong roles, get more attention, others get less.

The rule-breaker, the boundary-crosser, the sexual super-start, the hero, the destroyer, the maniac, the god-possessed, the poet, the scoffer, the doubter, the idealist, the insane clown, the loser, the complainer, the pious, the depressed: on one level all these are circus acts. Perhaps it is a mystery that each of us (a whole person) at times plays these roles; at times identify so strongly with the roles we play that we are totally unaware we play them. But, role-taking is part of a socially dynamic process in face-to-face groups; it's been necessary as an evolutionary strategy for survival, for transmission of knowledge (culture) outside biological inheritance.

Because of my experience with a family member being an alcoholic, I have a strong reaction to people who appear to celebrate being drunk, or drinking heavily. Yes, I often get irritated by certain posts here. But, being aware of that reactivity, and its personal source, I can "get around" the reaction and never lose sight that behind the words, the imagery, that rankle my emotions, is a whole person who has many other dimensions. But, that doesn't mean I like those posts !

I'll shut up now; I'm not sure all this (from me) is really constructive.

yours, Bill
«The truth is a snare: you cannot have it, without being caught. You cannot have the truth in such a way that you catch it, but only in such a way that it catches you.» Soren Kierkegaard

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