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yeah share some words of wisdom, you all single parents
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I have some code for that somewhere. I'll have to dig.
Real programmers use butterflies
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Oh really,  would love to have a look
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I found another adult and married her. Problem solved.
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 that simple huh
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Muuuuuch more simple than raising a kid alone  
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yeah agreed 
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I'll ask me wife...
"The only place where Success comes before Work is in the dictionary." Vidal Sassoon, 1928 - 2012
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let the good advice come
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1) Find a remote control that works: check the "Pause" and "Mute" buttons - these you will need a lot.
2) Buy lots of spare batteries for the remote.
"I have no idea what I did, but I'm taking full credit for it." - ThisOldTony
"Common sense is so rare these days, it should be classified as a super power" - Random T-shirt
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if you are honestly looking for a good answer. This might not be the forum for this question.
I personally have never been a single parent. But I have watched two good friends one male and one female be said single parent.
All in all, Take it one day at a time. Be patient (with yourself and with your children and with society). Don't worry what others think.
Get someone you can rely on to just listen to you. Someone you can trust. The guy friend used to just call and vent on occasion about ex and situation. I was just there to listen and on occasion watch the little girl. (my wife loved her, and still is close to her)
Otherwise.Duct tape, keep lots of duct tape around!
To err is human to really mess up you need a computer
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duct tape good one though 
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Just a general thing to think about:
You're goal is to raise them to be fully autonomous societal units. You don't want to spoil or shield them too much, but this time you have with them will be gone so soon. You can work your bum off and make a bunch of extra money to help send them out into the world, or you can give them your time while they are still desperate to have it.
It's a tough balance but think about the memories you want them to have.
cheers
Chris Maunder
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yeah you got a great point, I agree about the time and bond
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Oh - I thought you meant an unmarried child with children of their own.
Well, since that's not the case, I'll give the only parental advice I ever give (usually to new parents): read to them as soon as they'll look/listen. Every night if possible.
For mine, they were all dying to learn to read - and once they do that, the rest of school goes pretty well. I also avoided letting their minds be poisoned into not liking math or science. In fact, one of their favorite shows, "3-2-1 Contact" was a math-version of Sesame Street, although less juvenile. Watch with them (MathNet was awesome!). And nature shows. Inoculation with a love for learning is a life-long path to success.
Based upon their age and your situation, adapt the above. Do things with them where they can tell you are really enjoying yourself, too.
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Reading is a good advise to make a bond and memory, your suggested tv shows are also good hints
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.....even when things seem impossible, there is nothing we can’t pull through with a little focus, ingenuity, and luck.
Caveat Emptor.
"Progress doesn't come from early risers – progress is made by lazy men looking for easier ways to do things." Lazarus Long
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yeah true motivation and determination can get us through anything
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First of all, I am not alone with the kids, so it is not exactly the same, but anyways...
Many things I would have said were already said, so I'll try to not repeat them.
The most difficult part for me is to not take it personally when they explore limits. I know they are not being evil, but I know for sure too that they are doing things on purpose. It is their job, to see how far they can tense a string before it breaks.
So... be patient, be reeeeeeaaaallllyyyyy patient.
If you are not, learn how to be it. I am still on it, but I notice that the improvements pay off.
Another thing I think it is very important is to be loyal to your principles and be consequent in your decissions. If today is a "no", that should stay a "no" until thee situation changes, and when it happens, then explain why the change of situation has brought a change of opinion.
Give reasons for what you do or decide, they learn to argue pretty fast and the sooner you involve them in the reasoning process, the better.
Let them explore and give them certain autonomy (being alone, you won't have any other choice), but within the limits you set.
By the way... Yes they are kids, but NO, they are not dumb.
Avoid baby speech and things like that. Talk with them adapted to a kid, but talk properly, call the things by its correct name (there will be still enough "wuf wuf" or "miaow" in the process).
M.D.V. 
If something has a solution... Why do we have to worry about?. If it has no solution... For what reason do we have to worry about?
Help me to understand what I'm saying, and I'll explain it better to you
Rating helpful answers is nice, but saying thanks can be even nicer.
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really great from experience, I can tell, yeah patience is the key I guess
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Build a time machine. Talk yourself out of the whole thing.
I started with step 2 when I was still a kid myself, so didn't have to come up with step 1.
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Does a mid-life-crisis cat drive a Furrari?
"I have no idea what I did, but I'm taking full credit for it." - ThisOldTony
"Common sense is so rare these days, it should be classified as a super power" - Random T-shirt
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Only if it comes with Purrelli's
Keep Calm and Carry On
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or a Porsche litter Boxster.
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