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Keith Barrow wrote: It's often pretty hard to spot people who are at risk of suicide
If it were not such a taboo topic... There would be more warning from people at risk...
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The problem is that most people who take their own lives, tend to do it without talking to anyone. The ones who talk about it can often be helped to go on with their lives, and fix what is wrong. See Research report: Men and Suicide | Samaritans[^] - sorry it's UK based, but their may be something similar (Befreinders International?) in your location.
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Quote: The problem is that most people who take their own lives, tend to do it without talking to anyone.
If I take emotion out of the equation, that makes sense. If one is truly decided to kill themselves, they won't broadcast it. Others might try to stop them and that's the last thing they want.
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As I said just above...
One (of many) reason people don't talk about it, is because it's a kind of taboo...
Silly, isn't it?!
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Super Lloyd wrote: it's a kind of taboo
When I was growing up it was still a criminal offence to attempt suicide. We have not come all that far since then, despite the best efforts of many charitable organisations.
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As a side note, a joke I always like to do in those case (it happens, suffering from chronic sickness I contemplated suicide in my worst moments! thankfully it looks like they war way past now!  ) :
If suicide is a criminal offense, is the death penalty applied to those who attempt it!? 
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Fortunately it was not considered a capital offence.
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Rage wrote: But the whole situation hits me a lot - if anything, it will from now on revise some of my life priorities.
How so? (That's genuine curiosity)
Marc
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Well, I sort of realized that life can make such a twist at any moment ; I reckon this sounds very very trivial, but to me it was a big slap in the face.
So instead of spending hours at work for (often unpaid) overtime, I will go home earlier and play with my kids.
And talk more often and openly, even if only about daily life problems.
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We are listening...Truly...
Skipper: We'll fix it.
Alex: Fix it? How you gonna fix this?
Skipper: Grit, spit and a whole lotta duct tape.
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Well, for this, there is also Q&A. 
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Rage wrote: So instead of spending hours at work for (often unpaid) overtime, I will go home earlier and play with my kids.
There are only 10 types of people in the world, those who understand binary and those who don't.
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Rage wrote: And talk more often and openly, even if only about daily life problems.
Seconded!
Marc
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Rage wrote: talk more often and openly, even if only about daily life problems.
Bang on. Shout it loud (especially when there are developers within earshot).
If you don't tell people what's getting you down, they won't know and can't help.
If you do tell them, you'll be surprised at how many are willing to help.
I wanna be a eunuchs developer! Pass me a bread knife!
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That's terrible for her and the children for sure...
Of course he left and killed himself so for sure he was not having the best of the moments at that point, but of course now the wife has a very hard time in front of her...
That's terrible.
condolences to all the involved. ![Rose | [Rose]](https://codeproject.global.ssl.fastly.net/script/Forums/Images/rose.gif)
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Such a hard loss in a problematic time has often such results (like under drugs). It is hard to recover. 
Keep looking after that family for a while, so they havent the feeling to be thrown in a big hole.
Press F1 for help or google it.
Greetings from Germany
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KarstenK wrote: Keep looking after that family for a while
With all others family members and friends, we discussed a lot about how to do that in the coming weeks. It is not easy to find the right amount of "caring" while not being too intrusive - reminding her about what happened every other day is probably not the way to go either.
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The poor girl probably wasn't quite in control of her thoughts, and believed that they would want to be there.
OTOH: twenty years from now, they'd probably be upset that they hadn't attended.
I wanna be a eunuchs developer! Pass me a bread knife!
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Actually, I do not think it was not bad. Only very weird.
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I think I read somewhere that men in their 40's and 50's are the group at highest risk of suicide.
Although I don't know his family I feel for them as suicide can bring a whole bunch of questions and emotions into people's lives, some of which are never resolved, as well as the pain of someone they love having just died.
“That which can be asserted without evidence, can be dismissed without evidence.”
― Christopher Hitchens
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Degree educated criminal hero is the ultimate food! (5, 8)
Bad command or file name. Bad, bad command! Sit! Stay! Staaaay...
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Care to supply the solution as well?
You are still up tomorrow!
Bad command or file name. Bad, bad command! Sit! Stay! Staaaay...
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Serious? It was meant as a joke, as I know how much you like Bacon... 
But ok, here's my explanation (at least that's what I can think of):
Degree educated - BA (Bachelor)
criminal - CON (convict)
hero - SANDWICH (Earl of Sandwich???)
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Close enough:
Degree educated BA
criminal CON
hero SANDWICH (see Hoagie) is the ultimate food!
BACON SANDWICH
(Though in reality, the Ultimate Food is Sate from a street vendor in Bangkok!)
Bad command or file name. Bad, bad command! Sit! Stay! Staaaay...
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