C / C++ / MFC

class MyClassReference;

class MyClass
{
public:
    void doStuff();                         //  do that thing you do
    static MyClassReference getInstance();  //  get an instance of the class, but wrapped in
                                            //  my custom reference-class

    ~MyClass();
private:
    friend class MyClassReference();

    MyClass();                              //  private, so you have to use getInstance();

    void addReference();
    void removeRererence();                 //  if (m_referenceCounter == 0) delete this;

    int m_referenceCounter;
};

class MyClassReference
{
public:
    MyClassReference(MyClass &object);  //  call addReference
    //  fancy copy-constructors and assignment-operators here
    operator MyClass &();               //  cast to contained object, not used implicitly

    ~MyClassReference();                //  call removeReference
};