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Mark_Wallace10-Nov-14 6:33
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If you know that it's the kind of meeting where you could lose your cool, you have to stop treating it like it's something important to you, and instead treat it as a game.

During the meeting, instead of thinking things that might make things not go well -- in fact, instead of bothering with any emotions at all -- look at each person in the room as if they are part of a role-play game that you're playing, and analyse what they say and how they behave to work out their objectives.

Managers et al might be trained to be sneaky, manipulative ****ers, but they're rarely as smart as they make themselves out to be, so any hidden or longer-term agenda can usually be quite easily spotted.

And devs win hands down at role-play games, logical analysis, and creative execution, so move it into your field of expertise. Analyse what is being said to spot manipulation and babysit, and think of a small list of statements/replies before choosing one to say, just like in a game.

It's a puzzle, a detective game. Look for clues, and figure out what you need to figure out, and try to only speak if it's to find out more information -- i.e. answer questions with questions, but avoid "why" questions; go for questions that all "players" will have to think about (e.g. a thoughtful "How will that affect ~~?", rather than challenging with "Why should we do that?", which the "character" will be ready for).

And remember that you don't have to win, so don't even try -- you only have to get through to the end of the "level".
I wanna be a eunuchs developer! Pass me a bread knife!

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