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GeneralI negotiate therefore I am Pin
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Marc Clifton27-Jan-20 6:13
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honey the codewitch wrote:
I'm selling you on the idea that everything is a negotiation, even - nay especially - the conveyance of ideas.


I believe you are fundamentally correct, it's just that as you say, we ignore it almost always. If you're conscious of it, any human interaction, including ideas, is a deep well of sympathy and antipathy that we're often not even aware of. The "negotiation" begins with what we like and don't like in the interaction, carries forward enough to create either a reactive response or a "thoughtful" response. So we first negotiate with ourselves, and the more conscious I am of that inner negotiation, the more I have a chance of "acting" rather than "reacting."

The next negotiation is the external process of responding to the other person. This is a complex dance of acceptance, rejection, empathy, sympathy, analysis and synthesis, to name a few. We have the complexity of expressing our response, verbally or otherwise. A functionally empathetic person will be monitoring (with various degrees of awareness) two things -- how well they are actually communicating the response that they want to communicate, and their sense of how well what they are communicating is actually being received and understood by the other person.

So again, we negotiate with ourselves to modulate how we express ourselves, often in a non-verbal real-time negotiation and revision based on the other person's response. The other person, in the meantime, is going through the other process -- feelings of sympathy and antipathy arise, and the process repeats for them.

The middle area, what we normally call "negotiation" between two people is actually only a small aspect of the entire form of communication, which can be visualized as a lemniscate (a figure 8) of internal activity transformed to external activity which then becomes internal activity in the other person and is transformed to external activity, received by us and processed again through initially internal activity.

Which, in some circles, when done with as much consciousness as can be mustered, is called Goethean Conversation[^].

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