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Anyone that knows me, may be aware that at times, I may or may not have a not-so-rational hot temper. I'd like to think it's because I am wise and mature and all-knowing, well beyond my years. YMMV Well, yesterday I got hot tempered again with one of my neighbors, and I'd like to see the collective opinion of you guys if y'all think it was justified or not.
I currently live in a town home, and my "backyard area" is shared among three units in particular. It's not a big enclosure, but you make do with what you have. Yesterday, the neighbor two units over (and sharing the backyard area) up and decided to put a huge-arse trampoline there that quite literally consumes just about all the available non-porch space in the backyard area for all three units.
I wasn't a fan of these people to start with, but after seeing that (and considering this guy didn't even bother to ask the other two of us if that was ok), I pretty much lost it and banged on his door and let him have it. Granted, there's not much I can do after venting that's legal. So, now I'm calling the housing association for the town homes and so forth to get this resolved.
So my question to CP is, considering the obvious disrespect for other people when taking up all their space without even asking, do y'all think I was out of line for banging on his door and letting him have it? I don't, but then again I'm not one known for keeping the peace.
Jeremy Falcon
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Depends. You've got a right to be peeved the bloke should have asked you.
But the fact it's a Trampoline suggests he probably has very small kids, like me. If you had come round my house banging on my door and shouting at me I would probably hit you (as long as your not big and muscly or anything).
If you knocked on my door politely and addressed your concerns to me politely, I would likely apologise profusely for not taking your needs into account and take it down immediately or come to an amicable arrangement in order to keep it up.
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P0mpey3 wrote: he probably has very small kids, like me
Are you saying you're a small kid?
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I needed that. 
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That's definitely how I read it. 
The United States invariably does the right thing, after having exhausted every other alternative. -Winston Churchill
America is the only country that went from barbarism to decadence without civilization in between. -Oscar Wilde
Wow, even the French showed a little more spine than that before they got their sh*t pushed in.[^] -Colin Mullikin
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P0mpey3 wrote: But the fact it's a Trampoline suggests he probably has very small kids, like me. If you had come round my house banging on my door and shouting at me I would probably hit you (as long as your not big and muscly or anything).
You are correct with the assumption of him having kids. Although I didn't see any behind the door when I was around. I'm sure my voice may have carried, but I wouldn't deliberately do that in front of kids.
That being said, I still don't think I was in the wrong, having kids or not. I didn't yell in front of the kids or to his wife. It was man to man. He's an adult and he should act like one.
Jeremy Falcon
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Jeremy Falcon wrote: He's an adult and he should act like one.
Ahem... 
/ravi
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 Touché!
Jeremy Falcon
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P0mpey3 wrote: If you knocked on my door politely and addressed your concerns to me politely, I would likely apologise profusely for not taking your needs into account and take it down immediately or come to an amicable arrangement in order to keep it up.
Exactly.
There are only 10 types of people in the world, those who understand binary and those who don't.
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Sounds like you were more restrained than I would have been.
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This is why I like you!
Jeremy Falcon
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We're going to need more details:
- Were voices raised?
- Was swearing involved?
- Any direct insults to his wife or children?
- Any threats of bodily harm?
- Were any weapons drawn?
- Did the word "lawyer" get muttered?
Contrary to popular belief, nobody owes you anything.
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- Were voices raised?
- Was swearing involved?
- You know it.
- Any direct insults to his wife or children?
- Nope. It was man to man. Although I insulted him.
- Any threats of bodily harm?
- Were any weapons drawn?
- Did the word "lawyer" get muttered?
- No, but I did say I'd get the city involved if I had to.
Jeremy Falcon
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Then by my standards you handled it with grace and decorum. 
Contrary to popular belief, nobody owes you anything.
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Jeremy Falcon
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Mike, are your services available for hire?
/ravi
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Ravi Bhavnani wrote: Mike, are your services available for hire?
Absolutely! But my rates are epic!
Contrary to popular belief, nobody owes you anything.
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If he placed it in communal space, then obviously it's for communal use and I'd be jumping on it. ![Badger | [badger,badger,badger,badger...]](https://www.codeproject.com/script/Forums/Images/badger.gif) Wahoo!
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That's an idea.
Jeremy Falcon
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For my own future reference, does CP also have a mushroom emoticon to go with the badger?
The United States invariably does the right thing, after having exhausted every other alternative. -Winston Churchill
America is the only country that went from barbarism to decadence without civilization in between. -Oscar Wilde
Wow, even the French showed a little more spine than that before they got their sh*t pushed in.[^] -Colin Mullikin
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Given the litigious society we live in, you should clarify who is responsible if someone gets hurt - the "owner" of the trampoline or the collective 3 backyard neighbors since you are allowing it to "share" space. At least in the states, having a tramploine increases your cost of home owners. 
Toto1107
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Bah! Simply ensure you're the first to be hurt! ![Badger | [badger,badger,badger,badger...]](https://codeproject.global.ssl.fastly.net/script/Forums/Images/badger.gif)
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There are still some things you can do, for example you could mail him a Dragon Dildo.
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Just take it to the HOA. Pointless getting involved in a direct spat with a neighbor; never ends well. Using the HOA makes it non-personal and will probably get it resolved far more quickly than screaming at someone. Your actions may make you the bad guy.
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