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Kornfeld Eliyahu Peter wrote:
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Do you mean to say that Member 9063556, your boss AND the guy in the next room are all one and the same person 
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yeah if you're smashing a laptop coz you buggered up some code then you probably need to back off a little 
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I think it's mainly a patience worn out. Surprisingly these short bursts of aggression and anger don't last long.
Before I came in, my boss' laptop was being completely slow. he smashed the hard drive in such a state that the hard drive needed replacing. Eventually, when I became part of the project team, he handed the laptop down to me in a slightly better state. I've been taking good care of it, but I think my patience is much better on a professional line.
Personally, I can get mad very quick due to a short attention span (and I have Attention Deficit Disorder, which makes things worse) and my patience wears thin. I can keep it in to a certain point, but it always has to get out somehow.
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Member 9063556 wrote: Surprisingly Thankfully these short bursts of aggression and anger don't last long.
FTFY 
Member 9063556 wrote: I can get mad very quick due to a short attention span
You are in the wrong profession if you have a short attention span. 
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JimmyRopes wrote:
You are in the wrong profession if you have a short attention span.
Don't get me wrong. I love my job as a database dev. It's one of the jobs in which I can actually focus in.
Patience wades thin often when you have to deal with stupid or arrogant clients, and you just have to breathe deep and take it all in.
I only let loose on a personal level though.
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Member 9063556 wrote: Patience wades thin often when you have to deal with stupid or arrogant clients,
May I remind you of an often quoted retailing quip "the customer is always right".
Unfortunately stupid or arrogant clients come part and parcel with this job. If you can't deal with them tell your manager and try to stay out of the way.
If your technical skills are above average they will put a buffer in the way so you don't have to deal with clients directly.
P.S. - breaking a laptop because your code won't compile is a sign that you are under more pressure than you can handle in a healthy manner. You may want to find a less stressful line of work.
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JimmyRopes wrote: May I remind you of an often quoted retailing quip "the customer is always right".
Hence the cursing stays internal. Always a useful quip.
I still think I'm not alone in the outrageous bits, even though I try keeping my calm.
Perhaps some of this advice can come in handy. I'm not quitting my job though until I've done what I need to and got a better and less stressful line of work.
I think it's also the environment of where and how I work, oft times my frustration builds while I'm working at home, but at work it's more levelled. I noticed that going to Head Office it was very chilled, so perhaps moving there would help?
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Member 9063556 wrote: noticed that going to Head Office it was very chilled, so perhaps moving there would help?
Definitely worth a shot. 
When working at home, on personal projects, we put our own pressure on ourselves. It was a hard thing to learn that I wasn't the best and the brightest, but I survived the blow to my ego. After that realization I was able to approach my work with the knowledge that, yes, I will screw up from time to time, but so what.
When you feel like you are not getting anywhere put it down and do something completely unrelated.
A friend, who happened to be a sociologist, once told me that since we cannot solve the entire problem in a single day we should do something that will give us closure, like cooking our dinner, or some such task that we can complete; water the flowers, mow the lawn, etc. We can look at the completed task and feel like we accomplished something today.
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bryce wrote: yeah if you're smashing a laptop coz you buggered up some code then you probably need to back off a little
I once smashed a joystick as a kid, but those days are long gone. I'd be worried about any adult destroying a laptop out of frustration. Put in another context, this might as well be a case of road rage just waiting to happen.
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I have a card I keep in my office.
On it is a picture of an Emu, staring out of the frame.
Inside are written the words "Calm, calm, calm"
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Did you have an interesting childhood experience with an Emu ? I just spent an hour looking at pictures of them, and I still want to kill someone.
“Use the word 'cybernetics,' Norbert, because nobody knows what it means. This will always put you at an advantage in arguments.” Claude Shannon (Information Theory scientist): letter to Norbert Weiner of M.I.T., circa 1940
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I can't get my hands on the actual pic right now - but this[^] is by the same artist.
Go on - still feeling angry ?
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BillWoodruff wrote: Did you have an interesting childhood experience with an Emu ? I just spent an hour looking at pictures of them, and I still want to kill someone.
Try ![Sheep | [baah]](https://codeproject.global.ssl.fastly.net/script/Forums/Images/sheep.gif) instead.
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As long as it was your personal laptop. If it was provided by the company then you owe them a new laptop. It's not the companies fault that you cannot control your aggression. That's all on you.
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Don't want to offend you, but generally when you throw and break stuff in anger. It is always your fault, and this is mostly due to either your unhealthy lifestyle or your immature nature.
I pity people who throw and smash a TV Remote because their team lost a match, or road rage just to get somewhere quicker. IMHO All these people have awful lifestyle and poor time management.
Reach your office early, give yourself time to settle down, plan your stuff correctly, do some exercise, learn stuff properly and in detail, and most important learn to say 'No'. 
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I don't really get bad tempered when I'm working, even if my workload is quite high - it keeps me busy and that's fine with me; I'm happy being busy.
What I do dislike, and what does get me pissed off very quickly, are people who ask for help and then either:
a) ignore said advice thinking they know better, break it, then ask me for help to fix it
b) take on board the advice, agree with said advice, and still do it wrong
c) ask the same question in two days time
I thought, surely, everyone is like this...
But, no, I now work with some true angels who, no matter how many daft questions they get asked are always calm and polite.
Much better human beings than I.
(I'm trying to learn from them!)
"Benjamin is nobody's friend. If Benjamin were an ice cream flavor, he'd be pralines and dick." ~ Garth Algar
"If you think it's expensive to hire a professional to do the job, wait until you hire an amateur." ~ Paul Neal "Red" Adair
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1.21 Gigawatts wrote: What I do dislike, and what does get me pissed off very quickly, are people who ask for help and then either:
a) ignore said advice thinking they know better, break it, then ask me for help to fix it
b) take on board the advice, agree with said advice, and still do it wrong
c) ask the same question in two days time
In your case, I suggest you do not participate in answering questions on the QA forums here.
“Use the word 'cybernetics,' Norbert, because nobody knows what it means. This will always put you at an advantage in arguments.” Claude Shannon (Information Theory scientist): letter to Norbert Weiner of M.I.T., circa 1940
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I don't, but thanks for the heads up!!
"Benjamin is nobody's friend. If Benjamin were an ice cream flavor, he'd be pralines and dick." ~ Garth Algar
"If you think it's expensive to hire a professional to do the job, wait until you hire an amateur." ~ Paul Neal "Red" Adair
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I think the thing that really gets in my grill is submitting a project or task at 4:00PM when it's time to do system maintenance and administration for the clients.
Can't help but to make a stick-it and leave it until first thing the next day, even if it's urgent.
I can forgive those circumstances, but last minute changes to a project can cause my nerves to shoot completely.
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Member 9063556 wrote: I lost my temper and smashed my personal laptop after a few coding mistakes and frustration buildup on the coding source engine I was doing for fun.
Were you having fun?
Member 9063556 wrote: Is it just me?
Yes 
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I used to keep one of these[^] beside the monitor for frustration releif, in those days it was a CRT and way too expensive to trash.
Never underestimate the power of human stupidity
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Member 9063556 wrote: Almost into a point of getting loud at a verbal argument against one piece of code.
If I know that my boss is a bad-tempered man, I won't argue with him with just one piece of code.
For example, he said that we will use <insert algorithm here>. If I know that there is another possible algorithm (which I think is better), I will suggest that. If he refused to consider your suggestion, then fine. Just do it. If he asks further about your suggestion, there's a possibility that at the back of his mind, he is considering it. Giving suggestions will not trigger their bad-tempered man side, I guess.
I believe that being calm is always the best offense/defense. You'll solve nothing with your tempers.
Member 9063556 wrote: are there really just a lot of developers with bad tempers?
No. All people have bad tempers. It's how they handle it that makes it different.
I also believe that versatility is one of the many traits a developer must possess.
Don't mind those people who say you're not HOT. At least you know you're COOL.
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kArViD0tnEt wrote:
If I know that my boss is a bad-tempered man, I won't argue with him with just one piece of code.
I think it's more likely where that piece of code should lie (since the integrated software is very hard to sparse) instead of what code to use.
Most of the times my boss and I see eye-to-eye, but he can't take how slow I can be while coding. Sometimes I'm already in the spot he wants me to make an edit into and he shouts at me, in which I tell him I'm already there.
I just need to pace myself most of the time. a Subset of Pascal isn't my native language (Learned C# in college, go figure) so it's sometimes a little weird to work in something integrated instead of a generic IDE.
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It's clearly stated, I used the words, "For Example".
I'm not saying that it's also your situation. I'm giving a scenario wherein you can tell something inside your mind without getting your boss mad. After all, were talking about bad tempers, not the code, I guess?
In order to have him controlled, being creative on constructing your sentences and tone will be very helpful.
Don't mind those people who say you're not HOT. At least you know you're COOL.
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If you do that when you make a few coding mistakes, what will you do when something really serious happens?
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