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You never know... At least you've tried to solve it friendly. If the neighbor refuses to take away his trampoline at least you're not the jackass for cursing at him.
And let's be honest, if someone shouts and curses at you like hell you're going to move your trampoline! You want him to move his trampoline and shouting and cursing is probably the worst approach to try and reach that goal...
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Half the reason I got upset is because he wasn't friendly about it at all, and it doesn't take much to get me going it seems. 
Jeremy Falcon
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Sander Rossel wrote: But now you've gone and made an ass of yourself, shouting and cursing at him.
And now you're both wrong
I know you're right man. I can't go back in time, but I'm gonna try to handle it the right way now at least.
Jeremy Falcon
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Jeremy Falcon wrote: I can't go back in time
Grab a few beers, knock on your neighbors door again tell him you have some anger issues and that you're sorry and if he'd like to join you for a drink! That'll show him (no really, it's what he least expects)! After a few he might just move his trampoline too 
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Didn't say I was a coward either. I don't intend to make friends with people like that. I just made a mistake. I don't need to be his friend.
Jeremy Falcon
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Jeremy Falcon wrote: Didn't say I was a coward either.
Admitting you were wrong is only for the bravest of the brave
Jeremy Falcon wrote: I don't intend to make friends with people like that.
You don't have to. You're just going to have a friendly talk with him, and a few beers, about his trampoline.
You'll catch more flies with honey than vinegar and all that.
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Sander Rossel wrote: Admitting you were wrong is only for the bravest of the brave
I was wrong for the name calling, but I wasn't wrong about not being happy. He was wrong with that.
Jeremy Falcon
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Well, you know, be the better man and all that.
Perhaps I just have no spine, pride and honor. Which is really convenient when dealing with people though 
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Put a cover over it that doesn't touch it but is only a foot above it! It is common space, right? Then he'll know how you feel! 
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Too late to undo the shouting and cursing, but as long as you weren't threatening he doesn't have anything he can come after you with.
Let's face it you are not going to be invited to his trampoline party or get a christmas card. Doesn't sound like someone who you would probably like to socialize with so there is no loss there.
The HOA route is the only way to go. They will probably come over to take a look and tell him to remove it because there has been a complaint.
Once you lose your pride the rest is easy.
In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you. – Buddha
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JimmyRopes wrote: The HOA route is the only way to go. They will probably come over to take a look and tell him to remove it because there has been a complaint.
I hope. They don't seem to be terribly efficient in getting back to me, but we shall see.
Jeremy Falcon
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Jeremy Falcon wrote: They don't seem to be terribly efficient in getting back to me, but we shall see.
Be sure to remind them of the liability issue that they will be a party to if someone should seek compensation in a court of law for injuries sustained using the trampoline.
That should motivate them.
Once you lose your pride the rest is easy.
In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you. – Buddha
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As a father, I wouldn't yell at another father with kids around, unless it was warranted and wouldn't want it done to me.
I think you definitely made the correct choice to speak to him man to man, but any hostility on you part may not have been acceptable.
Also, if you came knocking on my door and yelled at me, I would close the door in your face. If you pushed the issue I would be arrested for assault and battery, especially if my kids were around. Just saying.
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His kids weren't around. I'm not that cold man.
Jeremy Falcon
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I hear you. It also sounds that you were in a tough spot. Hope it all works out for you.
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Thanks man.
Jeremy Falcon
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IMHO, venting at the offender affords immediate gratification as it offers an outlet for one's anger or annoyance. But it usually makes things worse, not better. You may have gotten a better result by talking to the other neighbor and both of you quietly knocking on the offender's door and requesting him to move or take down the trampoline. The offender may still be a twit in your opinion, but at least a twit who responded to your request to remove the monstrosity from the common area shared with other neighbors. 
/ravi
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I know you're right man. +5
Jeremy Falcon
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It sounds to me like the trampoline itself causes you no inconvenience - but it's a principal thing.
Instead of trying to solve it in a mature, sensible manner, you've taken the 'he's a git, so I'll be a git' approach.
So all you've really achieved is to lower yourself beneath his level (he did something he thought, perhaps, would be good - sure it was perhaps thoughtless, but who knows what his thoughts were - you didn't take the time to as - whereas you just ranted and raved like a dick.
It genuinely astonishes me how people can act so aggressively over something like this that is such a 1st world problem!
PooperPig - Coming Soon
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Guess what tinker bell, your post is aggressive. So, look at the pot calling the tea kettle black.
And trust me when I say it wasn't an inch or two, he took up the entire thing. I'm not that shallow.
Jeremy Falcon
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Lets start that by my standard that was overreacting. He might have done something wrong but yelling usually only worsens things and reduces the chance of a solution that makes everyone happy. But just setting up shop like he did without talking with those that share the space is bad.
What I would have done is gone over and said that I'm not happy with him setting up the jumporama without my consultation. Just think of all the noise pollution once the kids start jumping and yelling, bringing their friends to jump and yell, more yelling and screaming once they fall and break their tiny brittle bones.
He should have done the only sensible thing and that would have been to get some tablets to pacify his kids indoors.
At the very least if it's not removed you should insist on being allowed access to it. Maybe working out a schedule on when who can use it. I suggest really tiny fragmented timeslots. 
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Member 11683251 wrote: Lets start that by my standard that was overreacting.
You're right man. I know this now. He's still wrong for doing it, but at least I didn't make a fool of myself twice.
Jeremy Falcon
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You didn't go up to the second storey, open a window, and pee on it, did you?
Why not?
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 I had an off day man. Maybe next time.
Jeremy Falcon
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Pretty cool!
New version: WinHeist Version 2.1.1 new web site.
I know the voices in my head are not real but damn they come up with some good ideas!
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