void ContactsGrid_RowDeleting(Object sender, GridViewDeleteEventArgs e)
{
ContactsGrid.Rows[e.RowIndex].Cells[0];
}
or
protected void gv_RowDeleting(object sender, GridViewDeleteEventArgs e)
{
textbox hf = (textbox ) gv.Rows[e.RowIndex].Cells[0].FindControl("hf");
}