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After my two girlfriends, Penny and Ruth, left me.
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Been there...Done That. 
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You made a mistake - you let your girlfriends meet each other. 
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 good one
"A little time, a little trouble, your better day"
Badfinger
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because I knew that deep down, he was a good person.
To err is human. Fortune favors the monsters.
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I dug my wife’s grave in my backyard by myself.
She thought I was putting in a new garden bed!
If you can't laugh at yourself - ask me and I will do it for you.
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DRHuff wrote: She thought I was putting in a new garden bed!
Well, she wasn't wrong...
Freedom is the freedom to say that two plus two make four. If that is granted, all else follows.
-- 6079 Smith W.
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My backyard's filled with bodies
My basement's got them too
My closets ain't got no more space
I don't know what to do
I've got the mass murderer blues
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Wordle 581 3/6*
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"I have no idea what I did, but I'm taking full credit for it." - ThisOldTony
"Common sense is so rare these days, it should be classified as a super power" - Random T-shirt
AntiTwitter: @DalekDave is now a follower!
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Just made it.
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Wordle 581 3/6
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Get me coffee and no one gets hurt!
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just came to me
"A little time, a little trouble, your better day"
Badfinger
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The work relationship with two of my colleagues is getting worse, its not a beating quarrel yet, but I think its escalating.
One of them, the older one, apparently still has a grudge against me because I corrected him long ago on the subject of strong naming.
The younger one is now starting to ignore me and refuses to cooperate when I try to point out something to him.
I know the older colleague is inciting him behind my back as my relation with the younger colleague was fine in the beginning.
Does anyone has any advice how to handle situations like this?
I already mailed them that I want to talk about the situation and don't want this to escalate any further.
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If this meeting takes place, make sure all understand why you are asking for it and that you are open to whatever they may suggest you should do. It's a 3 way street then the one street you control should be seen as starting with green lights. If their streets open up in same way then you are good, otherwise, either more meetings or get some bigger streets in on it. Do not give in if you think you are right.
"A little time, a little trouble, your better day"
Badfinger
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It appears both of your problems are related to "pointing things out". I would be pleasent and speak only when spoken to. And be very thoughtful about my answers or how I was coming off.
You can simply come out and say to both you've been too paternalistic and etc. in the future. Bring donuts.
"Before entering on an understanding, I have meditated for a long time, and have foreseen what might happen. It is not genius which reveals to me suddenly, secretly, what I have to say or to do in a circumstance unexpected by other people; it is reflection, it is meditation." - Napoleon I
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Good advice thanks! I think the problems are also stress related, we have a small team with way too much work and that can cause people to snap at each other, I will mention that first.
However, in Dutch culture I think we are more used to being direct with criticism than in e.g. American culture, but obviously these two colleagues can not take too much criticism anymore ...
modified 21-Jan-23 9:11am.
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And try to speak in "I" or "we" form, avoiding the "you".
RickZeeland wrote: I think the problems are also stress related, we have a small team with way too much work and that can cause people to snap at each other
Perfectly framed.
I would apologize too, if something I did or said made them feel to be critized, that it was not my intention. (Not mentioning it was to avoid a failure or to success at a particular target, because that could get again interpreted as "You made an error I had to repair").
I would say that a good work clima is important for me and that I am prepared to polish our differences.
I have already use something like "we don't necessarily have to like us, only to respect us and to be able to work together in peace because we all are in the same boot and personal issues can influenciate the results of our work and hence the success of the team / company" a couple of times. It is a bit harsh, but sometimes a reality bath can make wonders.
M.D.V. 
If something has a solution... Why do we have to worry about?. If it has no solution... For what reason do we have to worry about?
Help me to understand what I'm saying, and I'll explain it better to you
Rating helpful answers is nice, but saying thanks can be even nicer.
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Thanks Nelek, I will take the gentle "Donut approach" first and see if that works. If it does not work, then maybe the reality bath ...
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RickZeeland wrote: ...than in e.g. American culture...
On both coasts and in large(er) cities, rude, critical, and judgmental are the way of business (and residential) life. We gave up respect for others a long time ago.
"One man's wage rise is another man's price increase." - Harold Wilson
"Fireproof doesn't mean the fire will never come. It means when the fire comes that you will be able to withstand it." - Michael Simmons
"You can easily judge the character of a man by how he treats those who can do nothing for him." - James D. Miles
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These two may be here on CP, and reading your message. If so, they will get your message here itself.
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I don't think they visit CodeProject, my attempts to make them enthousiastic for CP were in vain 
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RickZeeland wrote: my attempts to make them enthousiastic for CP were in vain
Honestly makes me suspicious about them. Why didn't they like it?
Are they not interested in learning and growing?
Maybe they truly aren't Growth mindset but are actually Fixed mindset.
In that case it will be difficult to resolve the issues.
I commend you for honestly opening up and trying.
Unfortunately, some people are Fixed in their ways and don't want to be changed at all.
Good luck and I hope you can work it out. 
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